Debunking the myth of Happiness

The world would be a better place if happiness was a permanent thing. How rosy would it have been if whatever gave us happiness continued to give us happiness. After all, who likes to be sad?

What we fail to understand is that what we "think" of as happiness is actually just "sadness" in disguise!

You think you just -

• became rich

• found your soulmate

• got married

• had children

• succeeded at work place

• bought your dream car

• bought your dream dress

• achieved your goal

And you found happiness? That's just -

• fear of losing wealth

• fear of losing your soulmate

• responsibility of their family

• responsibility of their happiness

• getting bored of that car

• getting bored of that dress

• looking for new goals

in disguise!

Earthlings did not settle even after reaching the moon, then what is the meaning of other things giving us happiness?

Do we stop doing all this and and can then achieve happiness? No. Permanent happiness calls for a skill called detachment. One can conquer the world of happiness by detaching oneself from the act. Sadness follows happiness like a shadow when we get too attached to the doings of daily life.

If one can master the art of detachment-with-doing, one can certainly attain permanent happiness. You achieve happiness from the doing (materialistic or spiritual) and move on to the next without being attached to the previous one. That way you're not dependent on one particular thing or person for your happiness.

Happiness is a relative phenomenon. What we think might be the meaning of happiness might not be the same for another person. Happiness is a conscious decision. No outer factor can make you happy.

Yes, they can but only if you have it at your disposal all the time. If shopping makes you happy, keep shopping all day. It is impossible that it will keep you happy with the same magnitude as it did when you first shopped. Eventually, it will become a drudgery.

What is the whole drama around happiness, then?

It is nothing. There's no one definition of happiness. Only, temporary or permanent. Temporary happiness can be achieved in a trillion ways. Permanent has no way.

Acceptance of the things as they are is permanent happiness. Things change, situations change and so do people. Since nothing is permanent, relying on anything or anyone temporary for your happiness is not a good idea. Unless you are looking for temporary happiness.

For permanent one, look within. It is always there. Some people also call it contentment.